Don't Hold My Head Down

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It starts with the author having a disappointing, drunken wank to internet porn, and ends with her having day-long orgasms and taking on the most powerful newspaper in the country. Existing literature on sex is often smutty or clinical (both okay), and Cosmopolitan suggesting women eat donuts off a penis like a kebab might not help everyone feel sexually empowered or liberated. Using a largely comic tone, the author goes through her personal journey to become more engaged with, and intentional about, her own sex life and pleasure, resulting in an autobiographical work that's both entertaining and thought-provoking at the same time. I actually keep a handwritten book journal, where I transcribe favourite quotes from the books that I have read.

The _ga cookie, installed by Google Analytics, calculates visitor, session and campaign data and also keeps track of site usage for the site's analytics report. Että vasta kun tiedät tantran kaikki kujeet ja saat ne 14 erilaista orgasmia (… suhtaudun tähän vähän skeptisyydellä) olet boss oman seksuaalisuutesi kanssa. Women's sexual pleasure has been suppressed, feared, denied and punished over thousands of years, and women have been murdered and mutilated because of it" (p.Instead of finding arousal, she found herself thinking about her nieces, growing into young women, and what our current society is 'feeding' to them, in regards to sex and sexuality. Holmes hit her mid-thirties and became aware--after a disappointing wank to Internet porn--that she wasn't having nearly as good sex as she wanted.

Her broaching of topics often perceived as taboo (hello, anal stimulation and the trauma of an unregretted abortion) can feel brave, but in an overwhelming and more important way feel completely necessary for the continuation of the narrative of the book and the broader societal conversation. Holme's challenges society’s patriarchy by discussing significant issues in historical literature and legislation. Not really about sex at all - more about the entrenched patriarchal constructs that make it hard for us to enjoy pleasure like men can. Without Holmes’ Bridget-Jones-esque timbre the book would risk coming off as just another banal think piece about female sexuality or a downright depressing report on the perceptions of female pleasure and bodies.Holmesin seksimatkan mullistavin yksittäinen oivallus oli se, että hän halusi ja nautti hitaammasta seksistä sekä itsensä että muiden kanssa. While I loved the book as a whole and I will recommend it to anyone who asks, I struggled with the structure.

For Don’t Hold My Head Down to obtain any sort of international acclaim, which might not even be its goal, readers outside of the UK will have to look past the slang, the uncountable instances of “blimey”, and references they don’t understand to get to the heart of the book. A very personal spiritual journey, of discovering yourself, your sexuality, and about the paternalistic (one could say misogynistic) society we live in.

Of course there's an argument that I'm not as liberal as I think I am, but in my defence, I've not gone all Mary Whitehouse, and I read the book to the end and was entertained by it. Within this, Holmes makes excellent points around how society and culture shapes sexuality, but also how a media governed by heterosexual men, affects wider perceptions of sex and sexuality, because they are feeding us sex as though we are all heterosexual men.

I loved this book; it’s enlightening, straight from the heart and well pretty much life change going in some ways. I would recommend it to anyone regardless of gender, who is in the same boat, their partners, their friends. She could have spent the time she devoted to the basic instinct, sex, to more useful and sublime things which I am sure she would have found more fulfilling. Just when I thought I figured out the reason for using a page long textbox, they pop up used in a completely different way a few pages later.Her last novel, Just a Girl Standing In Front of a Boy, won the Romantic Novelists Association's 'Rom Com of the Year' in 2015. Traz ao de cima aquilo que queremos, mostra-nos a necessidade de bater o pé e de nos fazermos valer, traz o desejo por uma revolução do próprio desejo que nos move. However, I really struggled with the style, which teetered between embarassment and a sort of dumbed down chumminess, making use of added letters, multiple exclamation marks and general "look at me, hihihi, isn't this silly. As a woman, I found that there were many times throughout this book where I found myself relating to what Holmes was saying, feeling, experiencing and expressing. I enjoyed the book and found it interesting, if a little eyebrow-raising in places, but it probably threw up as many questions for me as answers.