Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

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So many good nuggets and quotes that I really needed to hear and I'm sure I will again in the future. I also got the sense from this book that Terkeurst is here to fight for her readers and their well-being.

I slowly but surely worked to set up healthy boundaries in all sorts of areas in my life: family, physical health, and friendships. Reading through this lens, I saw how Terkeurst uses the pain from her experience to help people develop more meaningful relationships. And when they chose to eat from the tree that God asked them not to, he had to inflict consequences for their actions. She provided many helpful analogies for why this is good practice, such as the fact that you wouldn't give just anyone the keys to your home and if people who you did trust to have the keys were using them in a way that was not intended, you would take them away.I read “It’s Not Supposed To Be This Way”, by Lysa Terkeurst several years ago, and I have tried to read each new release she has had since. Are there any instances in which sometimes, maybe, a person's boundary is unreasonable or an overreaction?

Despite the book seemingly being born out of her trauma, Terkeurst does not focus on her situation; she does not discuss any overly personal details, and she avoids painting anyone in a bad light.When discussing people who won't respect boundaries, she stated, "The problem isn't the boundary, it's that the person won't respect the boundary. All of those people with boundary issues that she mentioned also have access to this book, but in reading it, they would be in line with her teachings to assume that everyone else is the problem, not them. I am often hesitant to recommend Christian books on boundaries and relationships due to misapplied and out of context scripture. In this video Bible study, you will discover how to set boundaries you can keep, communicate them, and finally see them working in your life.

I’ve seen so much progress in my own relationships through all I’ve learned about good, healthy boundaries, and I want the same for you. Probably the best book on boundaries and how to both accurately verbalize and live into them I have read. Her main message is that proper boundaries help a person discern whether a relationship is helpful or harmful - if harmful, she then discusses the importance of letting go.As a result, I experienced relational fractures that caused much pain and could have been avoided by applying the hard-earned wisdom shared within these pages. Good Boundaries and Goodbyes explores how people can have healthier relationships by establishing relational boundaries with their partners, family, and friends. The author helps you learn how to stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing you biblical ways to set boundaries and when necessary say goodbye without losing the best of who you are. in her beautiful world where you are in an abusive relationship but have excellent counselors and unusually strong support systems you may be able to please the perfectionist way that she and her therapist lay out responding to an abuser’s abuse. Sometimes it seems like the number one goal of Christianity is to bend over backwards and do everything you can for others (even if they are rude, disrespectful, and it interferes with your own life).

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes” is about learning how to set boundaries for yourself without feeling like a bad person for doing so. But you're beginning to realize that if the other person doesn't want to change what's broken in the relationship, you can't change it on your own.Or, I've tried everything to fix this relationship but nothing is working--I fear I'm becoming someone I don't even like?