I Hate You - Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

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Indeed, as long as their job is well structured, it can work as a sanctuary from their turbulent personal lives.

Albeit BPD have major difficulties in their personal lives and personal relationships, they can function well at work. The need for physical closeness to avoid chronic loneliness can push the BPD into serial sexual relationships with disappointing -or even violent- results. However, Jerold Kreisman warns, people shouldn’t make the mistake of considering each symptom as its own constellation: they are all related and they all move together like pistons in an engine.Your communication of your suicidal plans tells me that, as much as you may wish to die, there is at least some part of you that doesn’t want to die. And it is to that part that I feel I must respond. I want you to come with me to see a doctor to help us with these problems

The constant BPD’s quest for happiness and contentedness often leads to changing the environment around, which often includes people and jobs. Genders & BPD Support statements must help the BPD feel like she is cared for, which is something she struggles with, since the BPD feels like she needs to earn acceptance again and again.

Often, the suicide threats or suicide attempts are not a wish to die but rather a way to communicate pain and a plea for attention and intervention. Both pharmacological and psychotherapeutic advancements point to real hope for success in the treatment and understanding of BPD. Severe mood shifts and instabilityin reaction to day-to-day events (intense episodic sadness, irritability, or anxiety)

Instead of listing all the pros, this is simply the best overview of BPD I have ever read. Also Read BPD add to their woes by “feeling bad about feeling bad”. The author recommends BPDs accept feeling bad as a more constructive approach to improving themselves. CONS The shifting role patters for women might be one of the reasons why women have a higher incidence of BPD’s symptoms, says the author. Dealing With BPD This would make sense because there are different “levels” of being a BPD. Some function better in society while some others struggle more and present more marked signs. It’s A Mix of Nature & Nurture Classical psychoanalysis is best avoided because it’s an unstructured environment in which BPD do very poorly.They also have a tendency to idealize, which the charismatic cult leader is all too happy to fulfill. The author says that the threats and the rage are sometimes a way to test for commitment (not to be confused with shit tests during the courtship phase). The Workplace for The BPD Unstable and intense interpersonal relationships going from extremes idealization and devaluation (also known as “splitting”) With their erratic behavior and their need and fear for intimacy at the same time, they often end up repelling the people with whom they most want to connect.

The BPD unrealistic goal is to find a perfect partner-caregiver who gives it all and is always ready to tend for them. The available evidence points to no one definitive cause—or even type of cause—of BPD. Rather, a combination of genetic, developmental, neurobiological, and social factors contribute to the development of the illness. Medication tends not to be helpful long term, but can be used for short term relief. Real Life Applications Some studies say that around 6% of the US population suffers from BPD, but Jerold Kreisman says that figure might be an underestimation. That’s not really a scientific or prudent approach in my opinion. He should have at least prefaced that diagnoses saying they are far from accurate.To me, this is an example of seeing connections where there are likely none (read “ Fooled by Randomness“).