The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to Be Calm in a Busy World

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Art is used throughout the book. A way to focus whilst linking to the themes of each chapter. Not only does it make you slow down, to appreciate the art, but it helps you release that you can’t possibly see everything in one go. By revisiting the illustrations across different days, varying light and within different time limits, you are able to see different things! Life is the same. I hope that spending time with this book becomes an occasion to reflect on and meditate in your busy life. I hope it inspires you to connect with the kinder and wiser side of yourself. May you be happy, healthy, peaceful, and always protected from harm.” — Haemin Sunim You are beautiful not because you are better than others but because these is only you who can smile like that. May you fall in love with your unique self.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 160 Selama membacanya, aku merasakan bahwa apa emosi yang menghampiriku seperti kemarahan, sebenarnya adalah emosi yang nyata. Selama ini, di pikiranku sendiri, amarah adalah sesuatu yang negatif sehingga aku berusaha untuk merepresinya. Melalui psikolog ditambah dengan membaca buku ini, merasa marah itu manusiawi sebab manusia diciptakan satu paket dengan emosi. Mengobat luka di hati pun demikian. Tidak ada standar waktunya sehingga kalaupun aku sekarang masih merasa kehilangan, itu merupakan suatu proses untuk kesembuhanku. Instead of maintaining the sanctity of our values, shouldn’t we care more about the person sitting in front of us? Isn’t it better to be happy together than to be right alone?”

I believe this elegant book will help heal a river of grief that runs through our entire nation, just below the surface, everywhere I go. People ache for time with those they love, with friends and family, with nature. My hope is that everyone who opens this book will immediately find some passage, some way into a secret garden of slow time, where things of great beauty and truth grow, and blossom, in effortless abundance. It is a glorious refuge -- a timely, welcome escape from the pervasive trance of ordinary, relentlessly productive time Wayne Muller, bestselling author of 'Sabbath' and 'A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough' Many of the questions are about family life. “I encourage people to have a very intimate and close relationship with their child, when the child is one, two, three, four and five. You should pour your attention and love into them. But when the child has grown up, it’s different. Often parents are so much in love with their child that they want to do everything – even when the child is in their 20s. I say, ‘Maybe you can let your child know that he is already an adult. Say, “I love you very much but it’s time for you to grow up.” Focusing less on him, and more on yourself, your partner, and the people around you, will bring benefits to your child.’” There is a simple way to test the veracity of the Buddha’s teachings. Find the most comfortable posture. Remain in that posture for thirty minutes. The most comfortable posture soon becomes the most uncomfortable. Everything is impermanent, including the world’s most comfortable posture.” Some may think that life in such a community is repressed, strict, and difficult, but that is not the case. A monastic life is characterized by simple beauty and unexpected joy. Monks find happiness in things that may seem trivial to those who pursue the material trappings of success. Watching the seasons change—the blossoming of the magnolias, the dazzling fall foliage, the first snowfall—brings indescribable joy and gratitude. A simple meal made with fresh ingredients from the nearby mountains is a source of great contentment. Because our monastic brothers are our friends, teachers, and family, we are never lonely.” (Note: Reminds me of life in the Blue Zones where people consistently live to be over 100 years old — even if you can’t live like that, get outside frequently)companion. It is with this that Sunim realized that maintaining good relationships was like sitting near a fireplace. Even my best friend gets annoying if I am with her for too long. But if I see her after a break, she is wonderful again. The trouble is not the person. It is my relationship with her.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 116 I realized that Truth is not the exclusive property of any one religion. It has a universal quality that allows people of different religious traditions to recognize and respect it.”

its entirety but the small part that we choose to zero on. As he mentions, "the world has never complained about how busy it is." He is a Seon Buddhist teacher with 20 years of experience, and he spent seven years teaching Asian religions at Hampshire College.Haemin Sunim is a Zen Buddhist teacher and writer in South Korea, where he’s known as a “healing mentor.” He came to the United States to study film, but he found himself going down a spiritual path instead. He was educated at UC Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, received formal monastic training in Korea, and taught Buddhism at Hampshire College. When we’re first given a job, especially one we’ve been working toward for a long time, it’s easy to become overly enthusiastic, as we are eager to prove ourselves. But in our excitement, we make the mistake of equating our own eagerness with effectiveness. Getting the job done well is more important than one’s feelings of doing a good job. It takes wisdom to discern that these two are not always related. In some cases, one’s zealous efforts can get in the way of achieving the desired outcome, especially if one is unable to see the needs of the others working toward it together.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 79 The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down” is Sunim’s first book. It was translated into over 35 different languages and has sold over 3 million copies worldwide. This is a lovely and sweet collection of aphorisms and essays phrased by a Buddhist monk and teacher. It is essentially a guide to mindfulness, comprising spiritual advice on dealing with anything from relationships to stress and a book that is easy to dip in and out of.

Compare your situation with someone’s that is worse. Now yours does not seem so bad after all.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 18 A remarkable guide to how to live a life of unpretentious authenticity and compassionate engagement. In Haemin Sunim’s brief essays and aphorisms, the insights of Buddhism have fully become the stuff of life itself.”— Robert Buswell, Director of Buddhist Studies, UCLA What a blessing this book is; I am so glad it’s in the world. Absolute wisdom.”— Nancy Colier, author of The Power of Off Full Book Name: The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Guidance on the Path to Mindfulness from a Spiritual LeaderI was given a copy of Haemin Sunim's The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down by a dear friend after she undertook a stint of work experience at Penguin. Thoughtfully, Abbie wrote in her note that she thought this tome would be a good antidote to in-depth thesis reading, and it was. Even when we are awake we are no different from a sleepwalker. We do things without the awareness of doing them. Just because our eyes are open does not mean we are awake.” are even thinking about us in the first place. Secondly, you don't have to be liked by everyone. It is human nature to like and

Sometimes, after a relationship is over, you catch yourself thinking, ‘I hope she is happy,’ without bitterness. This is a sign you have moved on.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 155 Do not try to control those around you. When you cannot control even your own mind, what makes you think you can control others?” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 52 Before I go, I want to share with you the quote (out of so, so many) that I will take away and remind myself every day! Love means loving someone the way she is. Wanting her to be a certain way is not love but your desire. Do not attempt to improve someone in the name of love. It is improvement only in your eyes, not in hers.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 162

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If you look for love, in pursuit of what it can give you, it will hide itself. If you ask love to arrive because you are now ready, it will skip your door. Love is like an uninvited guest. Love will come when it wants to. Love will leave when you ask more of it.” - Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, p. 150 As the spiritual teacher Jiddu Krishnamurti said, pure attention without judgment is not only the highest form of human intelligence, but also the expression of love.”