The Power of Letting Go: How to drop everything that's holding you back

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He espouses the exercise to observe things as WHAT they are........not something attached to your feelings/judgement. The example I like was - A ferrari car makes you feel poor (hey.....wrong feelings, ok? ) versus A ferrari car is a mode of transportation ( a better way to see it so you don't feel bad about not having one!) Delivery with Standard Australia Post usually happens within 2-10 business days from time of dispatch. Please be aware that the delivery time frame may vary according to the area of delivery and due to various reasons, the delivery may take longer than the original estimated timeframe. there are many reasons why people could disagree with you and still be rational : their values might be different from yours, you and they could have different assumptions,they might have had a different experience to you, they might have information that you don't have or that you have chosen to ignore. Sometimes, we truly do not want to let go of someone – but they want to let go of us. Letting go of someone you love is even harder when your feelings for them haven’t changed. Remember that relationships are a place you go to give, not to get. And sometimes the best thing you can give your partner is their freedom. Listen below as Tony works with Dano to help him embrace the power of letting go .

Why do we have so much trouble learning how to let go of someone we love? We like to hold on to things, situations and especially people because they fulfill our need for certainty. Certainty is one of the Six Human Needs that drive every decision we make. Letting go and moving on from a relationship often entails a large amount of uncertainty. Even if your relationship has reached its conclusion or one or both of you are unhappy , there is still an amount of certainty there that can make it hard to know when to let go of a relationship . The author seems to suggest that we all have a bigger drive to forgive and love but to reach there… We must let go first. Purkiss oversimplifies things dramatically. I think this is a great book for people who have been through therapy, namely CBT, and already have an idea of "how to let go," but in my opinion Purkiss expects a lot out of his readers and their ability to therapize themselves. Going your separate ways does not have to be an experience filled with anger or judgment. When you recognize that the person is preventing you from growing or achieving your dreams, you can forgive them and also forgive yourself for any pain the separation may cause and wish them the best for the future. Remind yourself that to create space for a new, healthy relationship, you must learn how to let go of the old one. Practicing forgiveness is a chance to grow and live in the mystery of what’s next. 6. Master your emotions Because emotions emit a vibrational energy field, they affect and determine the people who are in our livesDo not resist it, do not judge it, and do not try to change it. You will face resistance to letting go, sit with it without resisting the resistance

If we do something frequently, we start to recognize useful patterns. Experience provides us with generalizations about what's likely to happen next. I find this highly offensive coming from someone who tries to portray himself as a scientist and who has actually gone through scientific training. Letting go of someone you love is a process. You won’t learn how to do it overnight, especially if you’ve spent your life holding on to things you loved – even if, deep down, you knew they weren’t right for you. Focusing on moving forward and creating a new story for yourself will help you deal with the inevitable pain that comes after a breakup. It will also help you eliminate blame, develop empowering beliefs to live by and move on with an open heart. The book is useless and misleading to anyone who wants to learn about meditation. 2 stars, because some exercises were indeed interesting and usable with modifications and sometimes I did recognize statements of an obviously quite experienced meditator - but not one who understands why and how it works. And also not one who can teach it well.Thus our basic emotional states transmit themselves to the universe (…) the mind transmits its states through vibrational energy over unlimited distance. The stress and anger caused by our unpleasant feelings cannot be coped with through escapism or suppression. His teachings around mindfulness are generally oversimplified and cover only a subset of known mindfulness techniques used in buddhist practices and in mindfulness psychology. The former he seems to not really like even though he reuses the classical anchor meditation in different versions in his exercises (selling each as different or not understanding the common denominator). The latter he obviously has no clue about. He seems to be largely into a very spiritual and traditional hinduism Vedic practice and transcendental meditation. His explanations for why those practices and classic meditation techniques work are largely useless and oversimplified. As it is, any person who approaches learning with a critical and skeptical attitude will find it hard to open up to the message of Letting Go. Letting go of someone you love doesn’t mean you have to negate the truth, but don’t let it influence your path . It is human nature to point the finger at someone else or a past incident instead of ourselves. This is why you blame your significant other at the end of a relationship or another person for something terrible that happened to you. Yet even when the facts are terrible or heartbreaking, you must let go of the past . Instead, use your experiences as a tool to push you to learn and grow so you can create a healthy relationship with someone else. 5. Embrace the “F” word

Not only does “Letting Go” fall short when put under more rigorous scrutiny, but the author’s general approach is also extremely unscientific. As Tony says, “When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” That’s why practicing gratitude is the antidote to the sadness and anxiety you feel when you’re learning how to let go of someone . Let go of your expectations and focus on gratitude for what you once shared. This small shift in your perspective will help you realize that life happens for you , not to you. When you’re able to find the lesson in every experience and be grateful for it, you’ll reduce the anger you feel toward the other person and instead appreciate what you gained from the relationship. 9. Talk to someone you trust Does not increase promiscuity, quite the contrary, because promiscuity is an attempt to overcome unconscious fears (really?) It’s a pity that a book containing such potentially great information had to be marred by so many unscientific, mistaken claims. Before reading it, I suspected it to be a simple introduction to mindfulness techniques, but it is very simple at that and even worse: it consists of a mixture of misleading pop psychology ideas (amongst others relying on Katie Byron whose work I personally don't resonate at all with) with some useful and reasonable experiences around mindfulness meditation. But even his description of meditation is connected with overly exaggerated effects such as "no thoughts" - even buddhist monks still have thoughts most of the time ;) and in all his examples, he only ended up with at most a few minutes without thoughts. I also didn't understand why one even should chase that experience so desperately?Think about the source of these beliefs - they probably started with an instance/experience when you were younger where you were bad at xxx or when you failed at doing something. Analyze these reasons - usually they'll be irrational beliefs like "I'm not good at xxx", "If I couldn't do it before, why would I be able to do it now", etc. The most interesting thing for me was the need to let go of people’s approval. Once you can let go of the need to be approved and liked, says the author, you become immune to the manipulation of marketing, advertising, and the media. #7. FAQs So you will know because you have no more negative emotions within yourself about anything or anybody. #5. How to Handle Past Traumas