The Trouble with Hating You

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There was even a section of dialogue between Jay and a mutual friend where the friend was going on this long feminist monologue and I felt like IT WAS SO OVER-THE-TOP and unrealistic to me. It was like he was getting on a soapbox in the middle of a basketball game and im like sure there are guys with feminist values but like THIS IS NOT REALISTIC This was such an incredible debut from Sajni Patel, and I'm already counting down the days until her next book. She's got a fan. Also, their were many errors about Hinduism, I'm not even a religious person and still was able to identify all the wrong things, because it was that basic. I also had a bit of a problem with Jay. He is definitely a sweet man, but he is too stubborn for his own good. And I don't mean Aries kind of stubborn, but Taurus kind of stubborn, if you know what I mean.

The Trouble with Hating Youhas delicious banter, deep wounds, heartwarming friendships, and a path to love that often feels impossibly hard, and the payoff is satisfying enough to give you a book hangover the size of Texas.” - Sonali Dev,USA Todaybestselling author Add the fact the family she is raised in, a community she is a part of, and the way she meets Jay...and you get this beautifully complicated relationship.

Here come this amazing guy Jay and you want to scream at her "Liya wake up and take a chance" but I GET HER...and her reason she is hesitant and all of her behavior. When this amazing guy is in front of you all you ask yourself is "you can't be that great, what is wrong with you"..

But then how can you be so hateful when the same religion tells you to be peaceable and kind to all?” “I’m not perfect. And I’m speaking the truth.” “That’s a tired excuse. She’s imperfect, too. We all are. Being imperfect isn’t an excuse for you to slander. And she has every right to be here. Sounds like maybe you need to sit in the front row during sermons as much as anyone else.” The guy lead was also an idiot who listened to rumors instead of talking to the source, which felt very juvenile and he had weird solutions for problems. If I was being sexually harassed by a guy, I wouldn't want him to bring me apology flowers. Liya is a lead biochemical engineer that is in hot water. She works hard and was just given a promotion. She lives on her own, cooks, cleans, does her own laundry, but she saves so well she can afford to splurge on the designer things that make her smile. But her very traditional parents-- especially her father-- don't like that she lives on her own and refuses to marry. She has a reputation in their community for being "easy" and "too American," and so her father has decided that it's time for her to meet her match.

That said, I was a bit disappointed that Jay was (basically) physically perfect. Muscular, flawless skin, etc. This isn't even a complaint on this book in particular. Rather, it's a comment on the romance genre in general. first of all, ew. second of all, ewwww. shove that misogynistic attitude up your ass, also, what father says that his daughter is a curse to him, i know there was this time people only preferred sons over daughters and all that shit but people started becoming open minded and thinking properly enough. the much i know is indian parents treat their daughters preciously and they're taken as 'Lakshmi ma' (indian goddess of wealth and prosperity, all respectful) i'm not saying shitty people still don't exist, i can't know about that accurately but like bro if you're gonna remain so stupid then why even bother having a kid or less why even marry. (i know not all characters are meant to be perfect blah blah) First of all, by now I think it is pretty obvious that my favourite kind of trope is the hate-to-love one. There's no doubt, hands down the best trope. So, of course, I was excited about this (it has the word hate in the title, I am fascinated by that word).