The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You

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Based on scientific research and hundreds of interviews, this book is suitable for both HSP and non-HSP who wants to understand their loved ones. Even if you are moderately sensitive, this book is useful for you too. One thing I couldn't help wondering, however, (and maybe it's because I'm one of the more internal consider-ers she talks about, rather than a "warrior king" type) was whether the concept of sensitivity was being used too widely as a kind of blanket cop-out. Men are particularly vulnerable to the toughness myth, the toxic social message that emotion is weakness, says Sólo. They both identify as HSP now but, as a younger man, Sólo himself was guarded against “feminine” concepts, such as empathy or compassion. “I knew that I read people well, so that’s how I would say it. You re-skin it in different language.”

The stories are also grouped into 25 different topics such as career, parenting, and decision-making. You get a wide spectrum of new ideas and strategies that other people have used, which you can implement and help you cope with different aspects of being an HSP. The author’s depression is triggered by a sudden loss of job and identity. Initially, he resisted the emotions that he felt but later he discovered that depression is a gift to him. Not only does depression helped him to understand his own emotions, but it also led him to learn more about self-love and spirituality. I questioned a lot of her claims (some based on research, some not) about biological traits vs. ac Authentic healing is a difficult experiential process, with breakthroughs of joy interspersed with extended times of hard graft and challenge, even more intensified for Highly Sensitive People than for others. Having been just one of Mel’s many teachers, I know that she has long been committed to such a soul-path, and find it hard to imagine anyone who would not benefit from reading her book. She writes inspiringly from deep experience, and can be trusted to convey truth.” —Jen Kershaw, psychotherapist and member of Soul-Voyagers Network This book is a major contribution to the subject of intuitive sensitivity and its relationship to the evolution of human consciousness. It provides an insightful and instructive understanding of this profound subject, and the various other experiences that often accompany it. Filled with a rich assortment of helpful tools, it is a must-read.” —William Meader, author, international lecturer and teacher of esoteric philosophyBased on research, this book offers practical advice on making the most of all personality combinations. At the same time, reading this book makes you feel understood as an HSP because the author describes clearly how an HSP feels in a relationship. stars because I found reading this book to be tremendously validating and meaningful, but at the same time I had a lot of criticisms of it. This book describes that percentage of the population whose systems are easily (over)stimulated by sensory information. Wow, do I wish someone had given me this book to read, like, 10 years ago. Included in this book are self-assessment tests that help you determine if you are an HSP and identify your particular sensitivities. Another equally important part of growing up is no longer pretending we will be able to do absolutely everything. Life is short and filled with limits and responsibilities…” – Elaine N. Aron, PhD, TheHighly Sensitive Person

For over 20 years, research has continually improved our understanding of what it means to be a highly sensitive person. The fields of psychology, neurology, and therapy practice have found over and over that this trait is normal, healthy, and in many cases, a powerful gift. Healing.If you have not yet done so, you must begin to heal the deeper wounds.You were very sensitive as a child; family and school problems, childhood illnesses, and the like all affected you more than others. Furthermore, you were different from other kids and almost surely suffered for that. If fewer questions are true of you, but extremely true, that might also justify calling you highly sensitive. Also, although there are as many men as women who are highly sensitive, when taking the test highly sensitive men answer slightly fewer items as true than do highly sensitive women.Based on the interviews (forty for two to three hours each), I designed a questionnaire that I have distributed to thousands all over North America.And I directed a random-dialing telephone survey of three hundred people as well. The point that matters for you is that everything in this book is based on solid research, my own or that of others.Or I am speaking from my repeated observations of HSPs, from my courses, conversations, individual consultations, and psychotherapy with them.These opportunities to explore the personal lives of HSPs have numbered in the thousands.Even so, I will say "probably" and "maybe" more than you are used to in books for the general reader, but I think HSPs appreciate that.

Identifying which type of empath you are is essential for HSPs. It gives you a way to discern what kind of stimuli will affect you most. It also helps you to recognize your strengths. For instance, knowing you’re an emotional empath can guide you to help people who are compatible with your sensitivities while avoiding others who can be emotionally draining. When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise. This book can be read with your HSP or non-HSP partner, or it can be read alone. Whether you are an HSP who is in an intimate relationship or not in love right now, this book is useful to you. I have known Mel for 17 years and she brings light and energy in all that she does. This book is an extension of that and will bring a huge insight to thousands of people.” —Alan Dudley, retired Principal Officer, HM Prison Service

This book provides basic, detailed information you need about your trait, data that exist nowhere else.It is the product of five years of research, in-depth interviews, clinical experience, courses and individual consultations with hundreds of HSPs, and careful reading between the lines of what psychology has already learned about the trait but does not realize it knows.In the first three chapters you will learn all the basic facts about your trait and how to handle overstimulation and overarousal of your nervous system. You don’t need a special nose to detect something in the air. The HSP hashtag has more than 498m views on TikTok, while comedian Miranda Hart tweeted: “When I found out I was HSP it truly changed and saved my life.” Lorde, Nicole Kidman and Alanis Morissette have publicly identified as such. Unsurprisingly, Kanye West, too. Quiet people may be sensitive, but sensitive people aren’t quiet any more. After mentioning once that I’m writing about this, my inbox is flooded with strangers sharing their experience. Ironically, it’s quite overwhelming.

Of course, these aren’t the only highly sensitive books out there… we plan to add more in the future. The Healed Empath by Kristen Schwartz is a forthcoming (January 2022) guide to transforming trauma and anxiety, trusting your intuition, and moving from overwhelm to empowerment. Topics include setting boundaries, transcending unresolved trauma, and strengthening self-reliance. I cannot wait to read!This book so far is a mess. It's mixing up meanings of "sensitive" as if they're all interchangeable, and throwing in political stereotypes and even some religious new-agey stuff. This particular book by cognitive-behavioral psychotherapist Tom Falkenstein provides the first psychological guide specifically for highly sensitive men and their loved ones. Not only does this workbook compliments the book, but it also provides more tools and exercises to help you to explore your own experiences of being an HSP. In our culture, however, possessing this trait is not considered ideal and that fact probably has had a major impact on you.Well-meaning parents and teachers probably tried to help you "overcome" it, as if it were a defect.Other children were not always as nice about it.As an adult, it has probably been harder to find the right career and relationships and generally to feel self-worth and self-confidence. As knowledge about my trait changed my life, I decided to read more about it, but there was almost nothing available.I thought the closest topic might be introversion.The psychiatrist Carl Jung wrote very wisely on the subject, calling it a tendency to turn inward.The work of Jung, himself an HSP, has been a major help to me, but the more scientific work on introversion was focused on introverts not being sociable, and it was that idea which made me wonder if introversion and sensitivity were being wrongly equated.