Good Inside: The new Sunday Times bestselling gentle parenting guide for fans of Philippa Perry

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In this summary, you’ll learn how to use connection-based strategies and find a way to hold your boundaries while teaching your child how to navigate their feelings and experiences without fear, shame, or self-doubt. Galu galā laimes veidošana ir atkarīga no spējām regulēt savas ciešanas. Mums ir jājūtas droši, lai mēs varētu justies laimīgi. Jo dziļāku saikni mēs jūtam ar kādu, jo gatavāki esam izpildīt šī cilvēka prasības. Būtībā klausīšana ir kā attiecību stipruma barometrs. Tāpēc, kad bērni mūs neklausa, ir ļoti svarīgi šīs grūtības uztvert nevis kā problēmu ar bērnu, bet gan kā jūsu savstarpējo attiecību sarežģījumu. Ja bērns jūs ignorē vai reti klausa jūsu lūgumiem, viņš bez vārdiem cenšas pateikt, ka jūsu attiecībām ir nepieciešamas papildu rūpes un mīlestība. This book does have some great content. I don’t hate all of it. And there are plenty of other parenting methods (RIE, modern Montessori, Love and Logic) that have super-weird aspects to them, some of which are counterproductive. When you read a parenting book, you are reading someone’s deeply biased opinions, and you need to bring your brain and a shaker of salt.

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And again, this is not to say that we let our kids walk all over us because they were probably doing the best they could at that moment. It’s more about the way we approach these interactions and hold the boundary from a place of love. Happiness vs. resilienceBut maybe parenting shouldn’t revolve around traditional discipline methods and charts. And this Blink is here to prove it. Saskaroties ar kaprīžu lēkmēm, vecākiem ir jācenšas palikt mierīgiem, jo mūsu bērnu nespēja sevi noregulēt izraisa mūsos vainas apziņu. Ārēja vainošana vienmēr ir saistīta ar iekšēju vainas izjūtu – ja brīnāmies, kas notiek ar bērnu, tad vienlaikus domājam, kas notiek ar mums pašiem. Var gadīties, ka mēs pat padomājam: “Es neprotu audzināt savu bērnu.” Tā ir sāpīga doma, tik ļoti sāpīga, ka mēs bieži cenšamies apturēt bērna kaprīzes lēkmi, lai vienlaikus pārtrauktu paši savas ciešanas. Tāpēc nākamreiz, kad jūsu bērns sāks trakot, pirms ķeraties pie kāda cita paņēmiena, pasakiet sev: “Ar mani viss ir kārtībā. Ar manu bērnu viss ir kārtībā. Es varu ar to tikt galā.” Resilience isn’t about getting the outcome you want. Remember, your job is to hold boundaries, not control your child’s feelings. Sometimes you just have to sit through the tantrum, and that’s okay. As we’ve already mentioned, your relationships with others will only ever be as good as your relationship with yourself. If you’re like most parents, you’ve experienced your fair share of shame. It’s important to face that shame, name it, and bring it out into the open. You’re doing this for your own healing, but also so you can recognize shame reactions in your children and help them navigate those tough emotions. I think the best gift we can give our kids is helping them realize that happiness is not the goal. Of course, we want our children to experience happiness. But if we only focus on happiness, we don’t leave room for all of the other emotions that our kids are going to experience. If we focus on building resilience, we help our kids learn to regulate when they experience sadness, anger, and distress.

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I have found myself asking this question, or at least trying to remember to ask myself this question, before I respond or react. Asking this question immediately changes our posture from accusatory to one of empathy and listening. Minimizing anxiety around food is sometimes more important than the consumption of that food. Give dessert alongside the meal to lower the states and take sweets down from the pedestal (I do this with my daughter and it works extremely well. She loves treats but doesn’t hyperfocus on them and has never thrown a tantrum when I’ve said no to a treat).