Grandma Bernie: Taboo MILF Affair

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According to Lucetta, society’s beliefs about gender are effectively stopping a cohort of male victims disclosing their abuse and accessing support.

After I’d sent for [the full birth certificate] it suddenly came into my head, what could I possibly find out that could be really awful? And what I could possibly find out that would be really awful would be that Jean was my mother. You can’t just bottle it up and think that it will go away, because it doesn’t ever go away,” he says. And he would know.He’d gone through all the routine questions, and there was a question: does the deceased have any other children? And she said, ‘yes he does’. Over the next couple of minutes I heard the floor creak in different parts of the house as mumbled voices had a conversation I couldn't make out. At this point I was standing perfectly still and a single heartbeat away from pissing myself. It was only when I heard the stairs creaking behind me that I shot forward, ran down the hall, and raced out the front door. I was standing in the driveway catching my breath when my bladder started to hurt. I relieved myself and then turned around. And he imagined how Grandmother had sat there with a sugar cube between her teeth, observing her daughters with amusement as they ran around the table in tears.

I then asked, ‘does anybody else know?’ and she said, ‘no, I will go to the grave with this and you are to tell nobody.’ The way she fixed her gaze on me, when she said that, I knew she was serious. It’s basically taken over my life. I sit in the same seat every day with my laptop on my lap, and I’m thinking and thinking and thinking and looking at family trees, looking up old newspaper cuttings, and it makes me feel better to be working on it. That’s my fix. We didn’t know what we might unearth, particularly when my mother was alive, and we don’t know what [the half-sister] had been told. We might potentially upset her a lot as well, because we don’t know what she has been told about her parenthood.

4. Liz’s family secret

Ellen’s mum told her that she’d had a relationship with a woman, but that she had married Ellen’s father and had never told anybody. It’s an impressive ambition to try and keep it secret that somebody has got schizophrenia in the actual house where you are living. The truth is that Hamish had no one to disclose the abuse to — and even if he did, was terrified of splitting up his family.