When He Leaves You

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He’ll need a looooot of patience to do that…wait. When someone sees your message but doesn’t reply this is what you do Constantly points out my flaws and still shows no remorse at all for the horrific things she has done to our family. If he is leaving you for another woman and finds it hard to be upfront, he will try to convince you that he’s no good for you.

Wow that sounds horrible, can’t believe after all those years it’s almost like they could erase everything you thought they were fighting for… for nothing. No real reason, rhyme.. if only it made sense. And what they are now compared to who they were before. REALLY??? What about when you discover he’s gay…..by discovering multiple affairs he has had? Are we supposed to stay through that too? What about when he abandons you because you won’t be his beard anymore? How to cope: If this is the reason for your divorce or breakup, you probably had a good go of it. The relationship was most likely very comfortable and “good” in many ways, but trust that you will rekindle some of your romantic spark and realize that your marriage was unfulfilling. Cherish what you had, and work on closing that chapter as you prepare for the next. If, after discussing your issues about being left on read, their behavior still doesn’t change, Spira says to take a larger view of their behavior in the relationship. “If they show you they care by other actions, such as having a steady Saturday night date, initiating conversations by texting you articles you'd be interested in, and making you feel like you're the only one, then perhaps you need to let it slide,” she suggests. While many people may want to argue with this, journaling will help you put your thoughts down on paper and ensure that you do not repeat the mistakes that may have caused everything to fall apart at first.

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Before too long the walks and talks became much more intimate and 8 months after we connected, she left her family. I started loving my wife when I was 15. We started dating at 17 and married at 25. Im now 35. She has always suffered from mental health issues and I have been there for her come hell or high water. I stopped 2 suicide attempts, had to commit her to hospitals until she got out of her dark spots. I have had to monitor her medication intake and times for years to ensure her safety (on her request). We have a son who is just under 2 and was born 10 weeks early. My wife started suffering from post partem depression around his first birthday and I have been watching her slowly recede into herself over the last 9 months. Still, up until a week ago, she said she loved me, loves being with me and having a family… etc. I told her no more. Put my foot down and told her if she ditches us again that weekend I would be done. Or how about when you know they’re gay, but realize they aren’t leaving because you are paying the bills while they go to college, work, run the roads and do his thing. Mean while you no longer car because there just aren’t enough years left in my life to even care about. I’m so tired, can’t cry anymore..don’t even have enough energy to be angry. When the one you love leaves, it is possible that you may want to fall into a funk, bury your face in the sheets, hide away from the world and allow every day to pass. However, this will give you more than enough time to obsess over how everything has gone wrong in your life.

When you do this, you prevent your mind from getting occupied with thoughts of how lonely things can get when the one you love isn’t there with you again. 10. Treat it as a lesson I couldn’t stop trying to get through to her and kept begging her to stop. She then started refusing to answer my calls, refusing to let the kids call me either. She wouldn’t let me see them anymore and everything got so much worse. A few weeks have now passed and Xmas has come and gone and no kids for me, nothing. Worst day of my life just praying she would come to her senses and save our family. A couple days after New Years she finally agrees to let me come grab a garbage bag of clothes…. For 20 years of birthdays and Christmas’s And everything we built I got a garbage bag of clothes. I went to my room to get some clothes and on the bed was his stained boxers next to her stained panties. To this day I am sure she placed them there knowing I was coming. I went to the closet to get my stuff and she had already thrown all my clothes in a pile by the closet door, when she folded and placed his stuff in my drawers and closet. There was shattered glass all over the floor in the closet and the home was in utter chaos, and our newborn and 6 year old watching it all in as much disbelief as me. She later asked me to move out the house to give her space as she could move in and she kept saying I was impossible to live with (yet managed for 5 years previously) We did relate and I changed as much as I could to make it work I thought she had too. Over the next 7 months she got a job (with her dad of course) and she kept going on about this guy friend at work. I suspected for ages they were up to something but could never be 100% sure so dismissed it. Last September she said we were over due to the fact of me cheating with her friend. Oddly she got over it then 2 months later had a breakdown. It was so scary. I felt guilty and blamed myself. So made loads of effort to make her life more enjoyable. I don’t want to give her the satisfaction knowing she was able to completely shatter my heart again and I feel pretty friggin dumb having believed she actually wanted to save our family, our dream.Instead of having the decency to tell you he’s no longer interested, he is just talking to you less and less until you take the hint. i tried to find my father in different forms eventually i realized no man could make up for what he missed I feel for you. My husband of 32 years has just announced that he never loved me and is moving out. To make it all worse, I had no idea. I thought we had a decent marriage. I haven’t slept in 3 days and eating is very minimal. I know I need to shake out of this and after the first go round it probably shouldn’t hurt this much.. Only it does.

Yes, that might be a reason because a lot of people isolate themselves when they’re dealing with a lot of stress. I am so sorry this happened to you. There is real evil in the world you are absolutely correct. My heart goes out to you and I wrote this in hopes to give you faith that just as well as evil there is still good. I have been abused by my father, I have been in relationships where I have been abused for many years. My virginity was stolen from me raped at the age of 14 by 2 people I thought were my friends. Two of my best friends over the years slept with my boyfriends and just recently after 7 years left after doing nothing short of being there by his side through all his crap. The reason I write this is again there is evil and i have seen it all my life but the most important thing to remember is the signs people give. Always go with your gut instinct and protect yourself until you feel safe again. After all I’ve been through I have not given up and please do not either. Do not let them win. You did nothing, they are completely insane and carma will find them as it has found everyone who ever wronged me. You can’t give up hope because numbing yourself will only numb you to joy as well. It is so hard I know.. but I’m living proof that you can and will trust again if you allow yourself to believe. The right man will respect what you have been through, he will be patient and kind and above most understanding. There are good people ..you are one of them, I am one of them…We need to keep fighting and believing for those of us out there who do care. Research watch for the signs and never settle for anything less than you deserve. I have faith in you and hopefully me reaching out will help show while there is real evil, there is real good in the world. There is those who love and care for others so much and are waiting for others like us to come in their lives. You will overcome. Fight for yourself, believe in yourself and never ever blame yourself for the ignorance of others. Trust and believe Carma is on its way. God bless and take care sweetheart. :) If he is leaving you for another woman, he seems completely shut off and not interested to engage with you or participate in a relationship constantly! You may never get the answer you are looking for from your partner, but there are several common reasons why someone leaves a relationship. Below are the top five reasons for leaving that I hear about while working with divorcing couples in my therapy practice. Reasons Partners Leave

5. You come first

Now comes weekend #1, now I have been there every single day after work and done all the work so she could relax and she looks at me and says you’re taking the girls for the weekend right? I need me time. I’m so confused I thought that’s why I was there everyday. But nope we ship off to my place and to my horror she won’t answer the phones all weekend which really catches me off guard, I thought we were doing something here. Next Monday comes and she again asks me to be there every night after work to do all the work and begins to belittle me when I start to question what’s going on, she would often tell me I didn’t care about the children if I didn’t want to be there but by now it’s getting hard, real hard. I’m not a dumb guy, I swear it. But wow now three months of this has gone by and it only gets worse. Our child’s third birthday shows up and it’s on a Saturday and filled with empty promises of a nice day with the kids. She refuses to answer her phones and when I do get her mom to go there, she refuses to see our child even when I dropped off at her moms which is super close. 50 steps to see your kid and she couldn’t be bothered, now I really lose faith. She asks for more and more me days and now I have the kids every single weekend. Whatever, fine by me I’ll gladly give up weekends for my kids. I now tell her I won’t come over anymore and space away for her when she wont even consider spending even an hour of “her time” with us. She gets outraged and calls me every name in the book and that’s that. She won’t answer my calls or anything again. Pulling yourself together when someone you love leaves you all begins from the mind. If you don’t yet believe that you have all it takes to recover from the pain and move on with your life, you’d never feel the need to make any efforts at all. Instead of falling down that rabbit hole, a little bit of daily planning can help you stay productive, even while you give yourself all the space you need to recover from your loss. Using a to-do list can help you stay sane as there are other things to look forward to every day. 4. Talk to someone else you trust My heart aches with yours. Just before our 26th wedding anniversary my wife told me she no longer wanted to be in a relationship. She had an affair and i found out about, and I think she can’t stand living with the guilt, so by leaving the marriage the guilt goes away. We are separated now for 6 months. We have kids high school age. I still love her and want to be with her for the rest of my life. This has been like going through the pain of a 100 deaths. I couldn’t imagine it being so tough. I’m saying this to let you know that you are not the only one. And I have plenty of divorced friends who are now happy. Hang in there. For example, it’s typically easier to digest the idea that you and your partner “grew apart” than it is to consider the possibility that he or she fell out of love with you. The first reason is practical and plausible; the latter can be a devastating blow to the heart and ego.